The quiet, sacred work of becoming whole again.
There’s a version of early motherhood no one talks about.
The one where you’re showing up every day — feeding, rocking, changing, soothing — but inside, you feel like you’re slowly crumbling. Or maybe not crumbling, exactly. Just… disappearing.
You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and don’t quite recognise the woman there.
You search your thoughts for something original, something separate from nappy changes and sleep cycles — and come up empty.
You miss yourself, even though you’re not sure where “she” went.
And still, you love your baby. Fiercely.
But loving them doesn’t undo the ache of being lost in your own life.
The Hidden Grief of Becoming
There’s a kind of grief that doesn’t get much space in new motherhood.
Not the grief of loss — but the grief of change.
You are no longer who you were.
And you are not yet fully who you’re becoming.
You are living in-between.
This in-between space — the one where your identity is unraveling quietly behind the scenes while you tend to your baby — can feel lonely, invisible, and even shameful.
But it is also sacred.
Rebuilding Doesn’t Need Big Pieces
The world tells you to “get back to yourself”, but offers little for the mother in the thick of it — the one who doesn’t have long mornings, long showers, or long journal sessions.
But what if rebuilding isn’t about time?
What if it’s about intentional moments?
- One deep breath on the kitchen floor while the baby naps
- One whispered prayer when you feel like you’re slipping
- One song that reminds you who you used to be
- One verse written on a sticky note: “He restores my soul.” (Psalm 23:3)
Sometimes God doesn’t rebuild us in dramatic ways.
Sometimes He meets us in the mess and says,
You’re still here. And I’m still here with you.
Motherhood is a transformation
You don’t have to go it
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You Don’t Have to Wait Until They’re Older to Start Reclaiming Yourself
You can start while the baby is still small.
Not with huge shifts — but with small permissions:
- To say, “I need five minutes”
- To put the baby down even if they fuss for a moment
- To admit you’re struggling without rushing to fix it
- To do one thing this week that’s just for you — even if it’s small, even if it’s quiet
Rebuilding doesn’t mean becoming who you were.
It means allowing the new you to emerge — slowly, gently, in God’s timing.
You’re Not Falling Apart — You’re Being Re-Formed
In the background of your baby’s milestones, something else is happening.
You are growing too.
Every small act of care you offer yourself becomes a brick in your foundation.
Every quiet prayer, every boundary, every moment you remember “I’m still me” is an act of resistance against the culture that says you must disappear to be a good mother.
And maybe that’s the most powerful thing of all —
That even as you pour out, God is still pouring into you.
A Gentle Reminder for Today
You don’t have to do it all today.
You don’t need a plan, or a routine, or a perfect healing arc.
You just need to begin.
One moment of remembering.
One breath of grace.
One step back to yourself — while holding your baby in your arms, and letting God hold you in His.
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